Introduce yourself, tell us about you and your baby girl
Hey everyone, My name is Jennifer Santiago most people call me Jenn I’m 22 years oldand I am currently a stay at home mommy to a 9 month old baby girl named Avery Rivera. Before having my daughter I was such a self centered individual I was all about myself making money and keeping up with the latest trends and always looking my best! Since having my baby girl she has turned me into such a humble person I honestly don’t even care if I do my hair at times as long she’s always looking the best that she possibly can. Avery is literally the best friend I have always wanted my entire life, I never felt alone again the day she entered my life on December 16, 2016.
What has been the most challenging part of motherhood for you? How have you worked through it?
To be completely honest the most challenging part of motherhood would have to be learning to trust people with your child not everyone is going to take care of your child like you do. I’m literally a paranoid mess when it comes to her which is why I chose to be a stay at home mom until she’s at least a year old. Luckily her father provides everything for her even though some times I wish I can give her more financially I know that my love and affection is all she cares for at the moment. I’m just happy to have her here with me I had a rough pregnancy so as long as she’s happy and healthy so am I.
What has been your most rewarding part of motherhood? What have you gained from being a mom?
The most rewarding part would have to be that you have the little person looking up to you, their dependent of you. All your decisions and choices you make will effect them. I’m proud to be a mom I wouldn’t trade it for anything, I have swapped nights out for nights in. Bags and shoes for pampers and baby clothes and I will do it all over again if I had to. My daughter turned me into a person I’d never imagine I would be. I always think about her before I think of me. I’ve become more patient, affection and DEFINITELY responsible.
Do you wish you could have done anything differently?
Yes! I’ve made a lot of money in my life I wish I would’ve saved smarter and wiser. Also I wish I would’ve finished a lot more things I started I probably would have had more to offer my child, but it’s okay she motivates and pushes me to be better each and everyday. I know one day I’ll be where I need to be. Also I wish I didn’t spoil her as much in the beginning because now she’s so attached to me that I legit can’t get things done without her crying but she’s my baby how can you say no.
As a mom, we’re always so busy that at times we can even forget to eat, in the midst of it all, how do you practice self care? How do you take care of you?
My days are dedicated to her! Making sure she’s had breakfast, she eats lunch, dinner and snacks in between bathing her and keeping her also in the best attire I can and also doing her hair. I play with her and teach her education things, when she’s naps is then when I go and shower up do the things I need to get done. Also my down time is once I put her to bed around 8-9 pm. Thank god on the weekends I have more time to myself because my mother is off of work I’ll go over to her house and she’ll help me out with her watching her so I can treat myself to do whatever I want. I’m a big believer in God without him I honestly don’t know where I would be praying to him gives me strength to keep going each and everyday.
What are some things that you definitely want your daughter to learn as you raise her?
It’s a cruel world, I want my daughter to be book smart but I also want to show her the ropes on who to trust who not to trust. I want my baby girl to be humble, kind and most of all respectful. I want her to always act her age and know that I am raising her to be a lady. I have made a lot of dumb mistakes in my life that I hope I can make sure she won’t do the same, I want to guide her the best way that I can to be her mother FIRST and friend after.
Finally, write her a small letter on what she’s taught you and why being her mom is so important to you ♥️
Avery, you have taught me genuine love you don’t care what I look like what kind of car I have how much money I have or what I own you love me for me. You showed me that their still beauty in this world, you showed me patience and most of all you showed me how to love myself. Nothing else in this world matters anymore I don’t care if my nails aren’t done my hair isn’t done I don’t have all the nice clothes because now I dedicate EVERYTHING to you whatever else I have left then I’ll treat myself. Being your mom is so important because you’re now a reflection of me so I always have to make sure you are well taking care of. Just know as long as mommy is around I got you. You’ll never have to go without. I love you baby girl always and forever.